Pet Ownership for Those with Disabilities

Pet Ownership for Those with Disabilities

Owning a pet can bring great joy into your life as well as a good bit of responsibility considering that all living creatures require care and have needs to be met. Nonetheless there is a pet out there fit for everyone if you’re interested in an animal companion. Owning a pet also provides hidden health benefits such as lowering your blood pressure. They provide constant companionship and unconditional love. The question becomes what pet is right for you, your home, and your lifestyle. Cats and dogs are the most interactive of the popular pet choices so that is what I will be covering today. Read more

The Power of Words

The Power of Words

This is a tough topic. Do you ever feel like you are a burden because of your disability? Like you don’t deserve to be happy? Do other people ever make you feel that way? It can be tough to tell those people to shove their opinions, and strangers certainly have no problems giving them out. Too bad people don’t hand out kindness and encouragement that way. The world would be a much better place. Read more

Personal and Family Goals

Personal and Family Goals

Personal and family goals are a part of daily life in our home, so much so that they are on display to remind us of what we strive to achieve daily. It’s harder to ignore something or put it out of your mind when you see them displayed around your house. Some of our family goals are that we will be kind and respect that everyone has their own opinion. We will use our inside voices, even when angry, because being louder does not make you important. We will strive to appreciate our differences and find ways to include everyone in every activity. Read more

The 5 F Words in My Life

The 5 F Words in My Life

Faith, Family, Friends, Forgiveness, and F it.

I am thankful to have the foundation of those 5 F words in my life as they are all based on one thing and that is love for yourself. My life, attitude, and perspective have completely changed in this last 8 years since meeting my wife. She taught me the foundation of love and the 5 F’s in life. I felt blessed to have her not only as a friend, because while she was young at 28, she had lived through several lifetimes of pain and was the most positive happy person I had ever met. Her struggle would continue over the next 8 years of our relationship. She fell to her knees many times from the pain and weight of her world. That brings us to faith, as my wife always says when life knocks you onto your knees the Lord is saying you are in the perfect position to pray for his guidance. Read more

Perspective

Perspective

Welcome to lymphoma rounds 1 and 2. Words you never expect to hear in your lifetime. Your wife has cancer. Your wife has cancer again. Oh damn, remember that harmless lymphoma we said we couldn’t cure but could control? Well you see it transformed and she’s already had so much chemo and radiation that if this chemo doesn’t work she’s not going to live to see her daughter turn 1. Why the hell is this happening to our family? Read more

The Superhero Complex Isn't So Super.

The Superhero Complex Isn’t So Super

As a woman dating with a disability, I’ve noticed a lot what I like to call “superhero”-ing. By this I mean men who believe they need to “save” me when they do not. Don’t get me wrong- I wouldn’t be opposed to dating Bruce Wayne or Dick Grayson, but this is something entirely different. Many people view the wheelchair as a form of ice breaker, and to an extent, I don’t fault them. However, when the flirtation isn’t exactly mutual, it puts me in a rather awkward position. Read more

Why I’m Thankful This Year

Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays. Great food, good times with family, and a reason to look back and think of all of the reasons I have in my life to be thankful. Once again my family was faced with huge changes this year. My wife battled lymphoma not once, but twice. It transformed into a much more aggressive cancer and we had to face the possibility of no longer having her with us once again, but she beat it after a long hard battle with chemo. I had a heart attack, a pacemaker put in me, and a spinal fusion. I have 3 beautiful healthy screaming daughters and our family is complete. My life is blessed. I am no longer wondering daily what the doctor will say tomorrow. We still face the check ups and getting to that 5 year remission mark, but I know if anyone can do it then it’s my wife. I’ve cut a lot of drama from my life this year by removing people who were not interested in me as a person, but only what I could do for them as a person. I am now home schooling my children full time and able to spend time helping them grow and to learn. Bella is now caught up academically to other children her age is now in the 10th grade. As terrifying as that thought is I could not be more proud of her. Tay has decided to become a “rabbit rancher” this year and has 2 giant Flemish rabbits of her own. She also moved out of her bedroom and into her playhouse in the playroom. I didn’t get the memo that 5 was the new 18. These kids grow up so quickly don’t they? My baby Olivia has taken her first steps and is well on her way from turning from my only baby and into a big little girl.I know that soon I won’t be able to catch up to her or escape her tiny terrorism, what is going on with baby teeth? All I can say is thank you Jesus for letting me survive this first year of parenting a baby. Teenagers and toddlers have nothing on an infant. They own you and they know it. I am so thankful to have been blessed to have been driven crazy by the sounds of those screams. Nothing could have prepared me for the changes that were brought into my life this past year. Some were wonderful, some were devastating, but I am thankful to be able to say that I have a true selfless love in my life that helped to guide me through them all. I don’t know where I would be in this world without my family, but I know that I would have a lot less to be thankful for in life.  Read more

Sex After SCI: The Male Perspective

Sex After SCI: The Male Perspective

Sex.. Yep we’re talking about it again. My wife is making me write this because she feels that it’s important to get a man’s point of view. It’s a little embarrassing considering I am personal friends with my publisher at EasyStand. She’s like my little sister. Sorry kid, you shouldn’t need to read these things. Don’t throw stuff at me! Read more

Married to Cancer Part 3

Married to Cancer, Part 3

Living with an SCI is hard enough right? No apparently it’s not, so let’s add a sick wife to plan and a pack full of small needy children to your life plan and see what kind of NBC comedy develops. It is definitely not easy to manage my own problems and my wife has been my number 1 supporter through this crazy journey. Then it became my turn, and honestly I wasn’t sure that I could handle all of the pressure. My own issues are often enough to push me over the edge of sanity dealing with my PTSD. I’ve already detailed my wife’s journey through cancer and now I will tell my side. Read more

Waxing and Waning on Grief Health and Disability

Waxing and Waning on Grief, Health, and Disability

It’s hard trying to articulate the depth of this loss to my friends, and to those that care for me on a professional day-to-day basis. I even took some time off from writing these articles, because I needed to pinpoint and state where it was I’m coming from without lashing out unfairly. Even if it is understandable. Read more