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I'm Not Going to Answer That and That's Okay

I’m Not Going to Answer That and That’s Okay

I’m not going to answer your questions, and it doesn’t make me a bad person. Read more

How to Explain "Your Story"

How to Explain “Your Story”

It’s inevitable. Nearly everyone is going to be curious why you use a wheelchair. “Was it something you were born with?” “Did you have an accident?” And the juiciest, most ballsy-ist follow-up question of all, “How did your accident happen?” I just hate it when strangers ask this. Only friends are allowed to ask this quite personal question. I just wish the rest of the world also agreed. Read more

The Difference Between Societal Ignorance and Hatred

The Difference Between Societal Ignorance and Hatred

There have been many comments left on the various blogs as well as Facebook comparing societal ignorance and various forms of hatred. I would like to take some time out to talk about the differences and why it’s important that we use the correct labeling. When we talk about problems in society it takes away from the real issues when we use incorrect labeling. There are a lot of discussions to be had concerning equality, accessibility, social stigmas, and many other things. I witness more hatred from within the disabled community that far exceeds what comes from society based on hate. Read more

Let's Start Talking

Let’s Start Talking

I spend a lot of time navigating inaccessibility out and about, and at this point I’d consider myself a bit of an expert. I’ve also spent a lot of time shrugging off ableism in the name of ignorance, or “they just don’t know any better.” I’ve touched on this before, and perhaps I’m getting a bit winded by it on my own accord now, but I’m not your teachable moment. I am a person, and when an adult asks me how I shower or who “takes care of me”, they are not just being curious. They are being nosey. Nosiness is rude. Now, let me clear up some things: I understand, that you might wonder what my stance is on children asking me questions. I don’t mind that at all. I do prefer if they ask me directly, because then I can talk about my disability in the way that I chose to and teaching children doesn’t just teach tolerance. It has the power to start a dialogue. It paves the way to a path of acceptance. Let your children look at me. The rest of society doesn’t see me very much at all, so allow them to look. Or, if they’re staring, try to explain to them why staring at someone different is seen as rude behavior. This is okay. Read more

Rude Comments About Disabilities

Rude Comments About Disabilities

How do you deal with the rude strangers who make ignorant comments? I don’t mean the ones who ask questions they have no business asking, I mean the jerks. Read more

How to be Awkward

How to be Awkward

How to make someone like me uncomfortable: Seven suggestions designed to give both parties seething embarrassment. Read more

Sharing My SCI Story

Sharing My SCI Story

Whether big or small, people face challenges everyday. These challenges can become roadblocks: some they can easily step over, some they can navigate around, and others are just too high to climb on their own. Ever since I started writing about my life, my goal was to show people that no matter what “roadblock” they may be facing, there’s always a way to get past it, even if you have to go straight through it head-on. Read more