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Dating as a Teen With a Disability

Dating as a Teen With a Disability

Hi everyone! It is Isabella again! Today I would like to talk about what it is like to date and meet people as a teenager with a disability. It is hard to have self confidence when you are a teenager. Why is everybody so dang mean? It is really hard to have high self esteem in a world full of people putting you down constantly. Read more

I Do Have Sex With That Man and Thank You for Asking!

I Do Have Sex With That Man and Thank You for Asking!

WARNING: This article contains adult content and may not be suitable for younger readers.

Everyone and their grandmother has an odd fascination with my sex life. This is not only offensive, but annoying as all get out. Do you have sex? Yes and it’s good too! I’ve had men ask me with the intention of “fulfilling that need” that is obviously missing in my life. I’m not sure how you missed the baby on my hip screaming in your face to back off. What is wrong with these people? First of all I’m married so you need to respect that. I’d really like to know why it is always some creepy fugly guy who you just know lives in his parent’s basement too. Point blank no! Not even if I was single and you were the last human being on earth, I still would not have sex with you! I have standards for men and they are quite high. Why are you asking about my sex life? Why??? Read more

The Superhero Complex Isn't So Super.

The Superhero Complex Isn’t So Super

As a woman dating with a disability, I’ve noticed a lot what I like to call “superhero”-ing. By this I mean men who believe they need to “save” me when they do not. Don’t get me wrong- I wouldn’t be opposed to dating Bruce Wayne or Dick Grayson, but this is something entirely different. Many people view the wheelchair as a form of ice breaker, and to an extent, I don’t fault them. However, when the flirtation isn’t exactly mutual, it puts me in a rather awkward position. Read more

Sex After SCI: The Male Perspective

Sex After SCI: The Male Perspective

Sex.. Yep we’re talking about it again. My wife is making me write this because she feels that it’s important to get a man’s point of view. It’s a little embarrassing considering I am personal friends with my publisher at EasyStand. She’s like my little sister. Sorry kid, you shouldn’t need to read these things. Don’t throw stuff at me! Read more

Where in the World is Katy Blake?

Where in the World is Katy Blake?

Let me blow the cobwebs off of here and see if I can remember how to properly blog. It is hard to believe that in addition to writing just one single article for EasyStand, I only posted two real updates on my personal blog for the entire year of 2015. Heck, even my Help Katy back to rehab Facebook page has taken a backseat, along with my personal blog and the EasyStand articles. Beginning in January 2015, I have encountered many struggles and setbacks that have unfortunately taken precedence in my life over other obligations, such as writing or painting or anything that required making adult decisions. It was all just too much to handle that part of me just completely shut down. I was beyond overwhelmed by my life and the never-ending obstacles. Spinal cord injuries are exhausting: physically, mentally, and emotionally. Read more

So You Want to Ask Me Out

So, You Wanna Ask Me Out

So. Abled-bodied cutie you want to date me or at the very least ask me out, and you don’t wanna mess it up?

Well. You’re in luck. Here’s a step-by-step guide to approaching me, or any other disabled looker you may come across. Read more

The Elephant in the Room

The Elephant in the Room

I spoke in my last article about exactly how I would like to be approached in regard to disability and accommodation and disability in regard to ableism and how it is you can discuss disability with your children-one of my fellow writers wrote more in depth in regard to children and teaching about acceptance and disability as well. I recommend you check it out. Read more

The Poor Girl Who Flirted

The Poor Girl Who Flirted

As I was sitting in the hospital cafeteria with my father, a nurse approached me and began to flirt. I was having coffee and told her as politely as I could that I am happily married and not interested. By this time, we’re ready to head back up to sit with my sit with Jessie in her room. I had been in my chair for an extended period of time and decided to transfer to the harder plastic cafeteria chair for a change of pace. As my dad moved my wheelchair between us for me to transfer back a look of pure horror came over the poor nurse’s face. Lord help her she hit on someone in a wheelchair. How embarrassing for her. I don’t know which part was more offensive to me to honestly. How can you be comfortable hitting on a married man? That’s fine to you, but oh no you can’t flirt with someone in a wheelchair. The horror of finding someone attractive that happens to have a physical disability. I hadn’t experienced this before in the time since my injury and it was quite offensive on many levels. My first thought was something that my wife says when people are staring at her. Did I suddenly catch the ugly and no one told me? Read more

Jessie + Luke: How it All Began

Jessie + Luke: How it All Began

Have you ever wondered how this crazy couple ended up together? You definitely have not, but I’m going to tell you anyway, It started on a summer day when a neighbor was moving in a few houses down. I am that super friendly annoying neighbor that forces everyone to spend time together with neighborhood parties. It’s only natural that I would bake goodies for the new neighbor. Also you did not see this family of tall Italian hot guys doing the moving. I took snacks down to the new neighbor only to find his brothers and find out that he was at the store. What kind of person gets their family to move for them without participating? A very smart one and now I need to know how to make this happen the next time I move!

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We're All Settling Somehow

We’re All Settling Somehow

I loved Tiffiny’s recent blog about never settling in a relationship, but the truth is that in some form we are settling because there is no such thing as the perfect partner. They are perfect in our eyes. The fact is that there is no single person that is going to check every single box and not have some super annoying quality that makes you want to punch them in the throat. I am constantly questioned as to why I settled for my husband when he has a disability and has a few other issues. Do I feel that I settled? Absolutely not, but there were definitely things that neither one of us thought we would be facing in a relationship as far as dealing with physical issues. He hadn’t planned on dating a single mother and I hadn’t planned on dating someone with a disability. It’s a bit funny when we look back on the last few years and see how the roles have reversed with 2 more children and my fighting multiple battles with cancer, relapses, and a brand new type that then transformed. You’re going to settle in some way or form, but you should never settle in certain areas. Read more