It's a Wheelchair, Not a Welcome Sign for Missionaries

It’s a Wheelchair, Not a Welcome Sign for Missionaries

I was watching YouTube clips of Louis C.K.’s stand-up the other day when I heard a line that made me love the comic even more than I already do: Read more

Treating My Wheelchair-Using Self to Some Kindness

Treating my Wheelchair-Using Self to Some Kindness

The world can be a big scary place, and when you’re on four wheels it can be even scarier. People may treat us nicer because of our disabilities, but that doesn’t mean we don’t need to give ourselves a little TLC every now and then. Read more

The Power of Words

The Power of Words

This is a tough topic. Do you ever feel like you are a burden because of your disability? Like you don’t deserve to be happy? Do other people ever make you feel that way? It can be tough to tell those people to shove their opinions, and strangers certainly have no problems giving them out. Too bad people don’t hand out kindness and encouragement that way. The world would be a much better place. Read more

How to Explain "Your Story"

How to Explain “Your Story”

It’s inevitable. Nearly everyone is going to be curious why you use a wheelchair. “Was it something you were born with?” “Did you have an accident?” And the juiciest, most ballsy-ist follow-up question of all, “How did your accident happen?” I just hate it when strangers ask this. Only friends are allowed to ask this quite personal question. I just wish the rest of the world also agreed. Read more

Personal and Family Goals

Personal and Family Goals

Personal and family goals are a part of daily life in our home, so much so that they are on display to remind us of what we strive to achieve daily. It’s harder to ignore something or put it out of your mind when you see them displayed around your house. Some of our family goals are that we will be kind and respect that everyone has their own opinion. We will use our inside voices, even when angry, because being louder does not make you important. We will strive to appreciate our differences and find ways to include everyone in every activity. Read more

Why My Dad is Special to Me

Why My Dad is Special to Me

This week we’re treated with another post by Jessie+Luke‘s oldest daughter Isabella.

Hi it’s Isabella! Somebody made me very mad and I would like to tell you about it. I posted a picture on my Instagram account of my dad, me and my boyfriend, and my mom. We were playing together and throwing horseshoes in our backyard with my boyfriend’s parents because it is a lot of fun. I even got one on the pole! My dad is really good at this game and he almost always wins every time. I also posted an old picture I found from when I first met my dad. We were playing miniature golf and I am terrible at that game. My dad really loves to play golf. My mom hates it, but we all like to miniature golf and even Tay can play! I wanted to share my picture and show my newer friends how little I was when I met my dad. I was 7 so he has been my dad for a very long time. Somebody commented on my pictures asking me how embarrassing is it to have a dad who is handicapped. I did not really know what that word means because we say a physical or intellectual disability. My mom said we don’t use that word because it is used as an adjective to describe a person like they are a disability instead of having one. I think that makes a lot of sense because nobody is their disability. I am not a disabled person but I do have a disability. I have autism and I am proud. Did you know that there are a lot of very famous celebrities who have disabilities too? There are and they are not ashamed of them. I think that it is really important for people to know that having a disability should not stop you from being anything you want when you are an adult. If you feel ashamed that means you did something bad or wrong. People did not do anything wrong or bad to be born special. Read more

How Much Better We All Have It Thanks to the Internet

How Much Better We All Have It Thanks to the Internet

When I was first injured there was no Internet. Let me explain what that meant exactly. For any direction post-injury, whether it was how I was going to live on my own or go to college, or even if I was going to date again, it was all learned in-person. Read more

The 5 F Words in My Life

The 5 F Words in My Life

Faith, Family, Friends, Forgiveness, and F it.

I am thankful to have the foundation of those 5 F words in my life as they are all based on one thing and that is love for yourself. My life, attitude, and perspective have completely changed in this last 8 years since meeting my wife. She taught me the foundation of love and the 5 F’s in life. I felt blessed to have her not only as a friend, because while she was young at 28, she had lived through several lifetimes of pain and was the most positive happy person I had ever met. Her struggle would continue over the next 8 years of our relationship. She fell to her knees many times from the pain and weight of her world. That brings us to faith, as my wife always says when life knocks you onto your knees the Lord is saying you are in the perfect position to pray for his guidance. Read more

When Hiring a PCA, Find One You Would Hang With

When Hiring a PCA, Find One You Would Hang With

When you’re taught how to manage your PCAs, one of the first things they always tell you in rehab is never make a PCA friend. You always wants to keep the relationship between you and your caregiver professional in case things get dicey. It makes sense; I get it. Read more

How to Tell the Story of Injury, From a Writer's Perspective

How to Tell the Story of Injury, From a Writer’s Perspective

If you’d seen me just after my boyfriend’s SUV crashed into a tree and destroyed two of the vertebrae in my spine, you probably wouldn’t have known anything was wrong. I’d been lying across the backseat, sleeping, when the car slipped on ice and began hydroplaning across I-495 E in upstate New York. I was lying in the exact same position when I came to some seconds later, chest feeling tight but no sign of injury otherwise.   Read more