Personal and family goals are a part of daily life in our home, so much so that they are on display to remind us of what we strive to achieve daily. It’s harder to ignore something or put it out of your mind when you see them displayed around your house. Some of our family goals are that we will be kind and respect that everyone has their own opinion. We will use our inside voices, even when angry, because being louder does not make you important. We will strive to appreciate our differences and find ways to include everyone in every activity.
We have goals for our marriage as well. We will walk away and discuss an emotional subject if we can not speak without emotion instead of logic. We will always respect each other as independent people and not as only our spouse. We will not disagree simply for the sake of having our own way. We will not go to bed with a heavy heart and undisclosed feelings that are hurting us. Only our children’s needs, and faith, shall come before our marriage.
We have goals as parents. We will correct our children with love and guidance, as violence only begets violence. We will not correct our children while angry, because anger never speaks the truth. We will teach our children their only limitations are the ones they place upon themselves.
We all have our own personal goals as well. I will try every day to accept that I am the person I am meant to be and more than what I allow others to think of me. I will never take my wife for granted, because she is the most precious gift in my life. My wife has goals like I will not put my need to help others before the needs of my family for my time. I will accept that I can not fix this world, but understand that every act creates change. All of our children have one of the same goals. I will not only treat my sister with love, but I will treat her as my friend.
Obviously these are only a few examples of our goals and core values as a family, a couple, parents, and people. We feel as a family that it’s important to not only have goals, but to display them. Some people call them personal rules, but I don’t like that. They are not met daily, but there is no punishment for that. We wake up and try again tomorrow. They are important, because they are constant reminders of how we want to act and be seen as people. We want to focus on creating a home built on love for all people. Intolerance is something we discuss a lot in our home for various reasons. Tolerance is not a word we use in our home, because to tolerate is “to put put with” or accept. We don’t put up with or accept that our children are of mixed heritage or that we have siblings of a different sexuality. My wife doesn’t tolerate my disabilities anymore than I do her AI diseases. It’s that simple, and it why we have our goals, display them, and do our best to meet them. We live and we love. It’s that simple.