The Poor Girl Who Flirted

The Poor Girl Who Flirted

As I was sitting in the hospital cafeteria with my father, a nurse approached me and began to flirt. I was having coffee and told her as politely as I could that I am happily married and not interested. By this time, we’re ready to head back up to sit with my sit with Jessie in her room. I had been in my chair for an extended period of time and decided to transfer to the harder plastic cafeteria chair for a change of pace. As my dad moved my wheelchair between us for me to transfer back a look of pure horror came over the poor nurse’s face. Lord help her she hit on someone in a wheelchair. How embarrassing for her. I don’t know which part was more offensive to me to honestly. How can you be comfortable hitting on a married man? That’s fine to you, but oh no you can’t flirt with someone in a wheelchair. The horror of finding someone attractive that happens to have a physical disability. I hadn’t experienced this before in the time since my injury and it was quite offensive on many levels. My first thought was something that my wife says when people are staring at her. Did I suddenly catch the ugly and no one told me?

Has anyone had s similar experience? The aspect of hitting on a married man who has made it clear he has no interest bothers me more than any part of it. However, the entire situation made me angry. Why would it suddenly change if someone is attractive to you or not simply based on a wheelchair? As a nurse certainly she should be educated enough with disabilities to understand that we aren’t different. She was still unable to hide the look of horror and disgust was that instantly shown in her expression. In the end I decided to feel sorry for her and not hatred. It must be hard enough to live life with that level of ignorance and stupidity. I’m sure that one day she’ll find the married man of her dreams, lol, but it certainly will not be this guy.

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  1. Andy Burch
    Andy Burch says:

    I actually find the opposite to be true. I’ve known fellow wheelchair users who are heavily offended when someone finds them attractive or interesting, especially when someone actually finds them attractive because of their disability or their wheelchair (such as in the case of a devotee). I never personally understood it really. I mean…people are attracted to different clothing styles, today wheelchairs are stylish for a reason, in a way it is a piece of clothing. I’ve always just told myself that it must be because they themselves have self issue issues and could not accept themselves as attractive. Just my thoughts.

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