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Marriage Rules

Rules for a successful happy marriage from the male perspective I may have only been married for one year, but what a roller coaster year it has been. I've made mistakes, huge mistakes, and I am learning from them. I've had great successes as well. I want to please my wife in every aspect of life. [..}

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The Key to a Strong Marriage as Special Needs Parents

A Love Like No Other “Daddy’s on the iPad!”, Gunnar yells from the living room.  Roa squeals from his Childrite chair. I’m in the middle of getting bedtime snacks ready in the kitchen, as Bryan calls to “Facetime” with us. My hair is frizzed, all traces of makeup have been erased from [..}

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Sex After a Spinal Cord Injury

WARNING: This article contains adult content and may not be suitable for younger readers. Sex! You mean you it still works? This topic is usually brought up with the standard preface of "Can I ask you a personal question?". Followed quickly by "Can you still have sex?". OF COURSE WE CAN! [..}

Re-entering the Dating World as a 30-Something Disabled Woman

Re-entering the Dating World as a 30-Something Disabled Woman

Lately, I've been re-sharpening my expertise in the dating world. My blade got a little bit rusty. 3 years in a long-term relationship will do that to you. But now that I'm back at the 'ol dating wheel, I must say everything has changed - I'm older and men seem stupider and ruder. Oh man. [..}

Podcast #101 – Quadriplegic Poet Travis Laurence Naught

Our very first poet on the show, Tiffiny is joined by Travis Laurence Naught, author of the book The Virgin Journals, a memoir of his 20's on the topics of sex and disability; a fascinating look at one man's journey. Travis discusses his disability and living way past doctor's expectations, how he [..}

Fear Of The In-Laws

No one dreams of a future daughter-in-law who a quadriplegic. I may be a lot of things - blonde, opinionated, obsessed with candy, paralyzed, but I'm not stupid. I know when mothers first learn their son is dating me, the last thing they feel is happiness. Yeah, it's not easy being a rolling beacon [..}

Wheelchair Life - Honesty and Integrity

Living with a Disability…with Integrity

One of the definitions of integrity is “the adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.” Kinda like the last part of that definition, honesty, the best. As the world is still trying to fully understand the lack of honesty of a global icon, Lance Armstrong, I [..}

Challenges of Life After Spinal Cord Injury

Trying Hard Not to Ask “Why Me?”

I think that anyone who acquires a disability after a number of years of living a fully functioning, able-bodied life ends up wanting to ask “why me?” at some point. In my case, my fate was changed instantly at the age of 17 in a traumatic and catastrophic paralyzing diving accident. But I’ve [..}

Successful Vent Dependent Quad that Uses Standing Frame

Podcast #85: A vent? No big

In episode #85 of No Free Rides, I'm joined by Jenni Taylor, a positively fabulous woman from Minnesota, who's a C1-C2 vent-dependent quadriplegic and the former Ms. Wheelchair Minnesota 2011. At 25, she's had more deeper life experiences than anyone I've ever had on the show. [..}

Disability Dating

Happy Valentine’s Day

Oh Valentine's Day the holiday of love, when we all splurge on flowers, cards, candies and other gifts for our loved ones, friends and the other important people in our lives.  Whether you are a fan of this holiday or not, there are a few things that I would like to share with you. The first is a [..}