When you use a wheelchair, people like to stare. They also like to ask what’s wrong. People are nosey and hey, it can hurt our feelings. When a stranger asks why you can‘t walk, how do you feel…inside? Mad, embarrassed or annoyed? What do you say? My mom told me growing up to be nice to everyone, so when people ask what’s wrong with me, I’ll tell them my legs don’t work because I hurt my neck. What do you like to say?
When you’re at the mall and a stranger asks, “Hey, what happened to you?” it can ruin your day (especially if you’re trying to buy a shirt or just eat some pizza). But don’t get mad. Humans love to ask questions. It’ll always be this way. You should always have an answer ready, but I know, explaining your disability is hard. Here are my favorite ways to answer this crazy question.
God made me this way: Remember, you don’t have to tell strangers everything just because they ask. You should be treated as politely as anyone else. Say, “God made you this way,” and that’s it. Smile at them too, just so they know you’re not too mad.
Teach them: You can teach others about disabilities whenever they get nosey. A lot of people don’t know what Cerebral Palsy, Spina Bifida, Muscular Dystrophy and a lot of other disabilities are. I’ll describe my hurt spinal cord as if it’s a broken power line that’s been torn down by a tornado when people ask. People really like that . The more people we can teach about our disabilities, the more they’ll accept us.
Create a comeback: Sometimes strangers can be rude when they ask their questions. When this happens, it’s ok to say something snappy back. I know some adults say you should never be rude, but having a disability makes us have tough skin. Create a funny comeback when nosey people get in your face. Try saying, “I’m just lazy” the next time someone asks what’s wrong. I also like, “Something is wrong with me? Oh cool!”
Remember, don’t let the nosey people of the world get under your skin. Learning how to be ok with nosey people is important when you become an adult. Even try practicing your answers in private to see what sounds best, and you’ll be ready for ANY question that comes your way.
How do you answer disability questions?